Feeling
the pressure
For many of us the festive season can lead to
frayed tempers, stress and disappointment. Often we place such a
high expectation on having a 'Merry Christmas' we are almost bound
to feel let down.
You
may remember warm and wonderful times from your childhood and want
to provide the same for your children.
If
all doesn't go to plan you can feel a sense of failure. But there
are many things you can do to make the most of this time with your
family and have your best-ever Christmas.
Over-excitable
kids
The holiday season can be very stimulating for
children. However, particularly for younger kids, too much
excitement can lead to upsets.
Holiday
periods also play havoc with your normal routines. Schools close and your children are with you for more of the day.
Your
kids may feel out of sorts. But there are things you can do to head
off the "What can I do?" and "I'm bored"
refrains.
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Plan a seasonal outing – go and see beautiful cribs built in all parts of Malta and Gozo, or visit Father Christmas in a local shop.
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Have books and videos ready to entertain – see your local library for Christmas books and videos to loan.
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Let children help with housework and present-wrapping – they will feel involved and useful and take some of the load off you!
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Remember children's interests – it's not realistic to expect children to sit through long dinners and adult conversations. Plan some Christmas day activities for the kids.
Common
Christmas hurdles and how to avoid them
Losing sight of your own needs
Think
about what you really want – to go out for Christmas lunch instead
of cooking or help with present buying. All your wishes might not
come true, but achieving even one will be a big boost!
Plan
some activities that make the season fun for you. Breakfast in bed or hanging up your own stocking can be great ways
to induce Christmas cheer.
Tension with a partner
Avoid
arguments with your partner by finding a quiet, stress-free time to
discuss your plans in advance.
List
all jobs that need to be done and decide who will do what. Card
writing, present wrapping and work on the day can all be shared!
Don't
let underlying tensions spoil the celebrations. Speak out about how
you feel and clear the air.
Trying to please everyone
Trying to keep everyone happy can be difficult. Decide well in advance which in-laws you will visit and who will come to you.
Admit
when you need help. Keep people busy with cooking and table clearing
duties or entertaining the children. See guests as extra pairs of
hands not just more people to slave over.
